International love: problems of being gypsy and having feelings

Everyone needs love.

People say it comes just like that. When you are not expecting it. And it changes your life forever…

Well it might be true, but I believe that the environment and people around can affect this process somehow.

As a traveller, I usually hear from my relatives or friends : “So after all the places you’ve been, you didn’t find a boyfriend yet??!”

Like meeting million guys everyday, makes it easier.

“Dude, you know how complicated is to find love in another country?”

With all the respect, you probably don’t. I refer to those people who have never travelled and just stayed with the same kind of people all their lives.

The choice in your villages/cities is so limited that, you just pick between what you have available.

Of course true love happens in small areas as well, but I still think it is helped by the idea of “Here I have these options, so I just grab one quickly”.

Strongly differs the situation when you are a traveller.

As I mentioned earlier, you meet so many people. So many that you start getting confused.

Now not one person, but five peoplecould become your potential love for the rest of your life as all these human beings are so different between themselves and with great qualities or aspects which enchant you.

But at the same time, the choice is just SO EXTENDED, that at some point you kind of “get tired” and “can’t be bothered anymore”.

All those time and energies wasted behind mirrors creating the “I-need-to-look-like-I-don’t-give

-a-shit-about-this-date” look become tiring.

For young, obsessed travelers is harder. Staying in a place for a short amount of time, doesn’t definitely help. When you are maybe starting to know someone, here comes the super cool opportunity on the other side of the World and, personally, I would choose that (long-distance relations can’t be considered for me).

Something else to keep in mind is “Backgrounds”.

Meeting someone from a different culture/lifestyle/country/religion is great of course, but sometimes things between 2 very “different” people can turn into complicated.

One could try to impose his thoughts to the other, language barrier issues can develop or simply people realise to be too different.

It is easy to recognize these differences when you were, for example, so in love with a boyfriend who arrived illegally in the Uk, who started selling cocaine, and propose you to get married because apparently he loved you (not because he wanted to get the documents).

Or when you had a boyfriend for 1 year and, after breaking up, you discover he is married with two daughters (and of course he still was while having a relationship with you and 3 more girls).

Or when simply someone has different “expectations” from yours!

Well love is never easy, and after you see many things in your life, you realize it’s extremely hard!

But, let’s keep some faith my friends! Life is an amazing journey, whatever it gives you! :)